When Ty and I met I was quick to let him know that our relationship could not get serious because I was joining the Peace Corps. He was even quicker to assure me that he would just come along with me. Well you see, you have to be married to go as a couple. So that is just what we did. We got married so we could go to the Peace Corps together as a couple. Unfortunately 10,000 other people applied that same year. The Peace Corps only accepted 3000. We were not one of them. My heart broke. But life went on. We fell in love (our love and marriage was in a non traditional order) Ty got a great job, I finished college, we moved a few times and then I surprisingly got pregnant with Luna. I was still holding on to my dream of joining the Peace Corps but that dream quickly died when my motherly instincts took over.
I dove into motherhood head first and stuffed my dreams way down deep inside until I wasn't happy anymore. Then one day it hit me like a slap in the face. Wait?? That's crazy! My brain started spinning and I was determined to find some sort of "real adventure" that we could do right now, together as a family. The first idea I threw at Ty was that we save for a year, sell everything and then go live in the mountains of Peru. He wasn't having it. After throwing several ideas at him I finally came up with one that he could keep his job, we didn't have to sell anything and it wouldn't cost more than our normal life. Buy a motorhome and travel the west for a year while following his work route! At first he said "are you crazy? I am not going to rent out our house for a year!" He finally came around though and committed to four months.
Here we are! Nearly two months into our great adventure. Or rather my adventure. The adventure that my heart lives for. The one that my dear husband agreed to do by my side because he loves me. Don't get me wrong, he is throughly enjoying himself but he would rather be at home. Hence the name; My Wife's Adventure.
The first month was hard. Really hard. We all missed home and were absolutely exhausted. After that adjustment period though it has been better than I dreamed. It has brought clarity to our whole family. Being away from our day to day life has helped us find ourselves and each other in ways we didn't even know were possible.
I am finally listening to my heart and doing what fulfills my adventurous spirit. It has relit the light in me. I am me again. The me that I haven't really known since our Peace Corps application got denied. All the sudden I see myself so clearly and I want to share myself with the world.
We came on this adventure with the intent of it being just that. A four month adventure. But it has quickly become much more. So what is next you might ask? In another few months this adventure will end. But both Ty and I know that my heart will still yearn for more. More adventure to feed my soul. And that is where our commitment to one another shines clear. We are both wiling to compromise to find a balance. We aren't exactly sure what that looks like yet but we do know that it includes having a home and leaving that home for extended periods of time to find "real adventure".
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